Wedding Planning By The Stars

How Astrology Can Help You Create the Kind of Marriage You Dream About

According to tradition, June is THE MONTH to get married, although how that tradition originated is anyone’s guess. Some sources say it was the first month that water temperatures were warm enough for would-be brides to take their first after-winter bath! Others say it was because June was named after Juno, the goddess of love and marriage.

That’s all well and good, but if you look more closely at Juno’s marriage to Jupiter, you might want to think again — Jupiter fooled around a lot while Juno stoically stood by her man, remaining faithful but taking her revenge on the “other women” rather than on him. Not the standard you want to model your marriage after, is it? But then again, mythology was a lo-o-o-ong time ago, or was it?

But whatever its origins, June has become firmly entrenched in our culture as “the ideal time” to plan a wedding. But what does astrology have to say about that month, and why is the timing of a marriage even a consideration? Let’s look at that first…

You were born on a certain day and, assuming that astrology has some influence over most people, you possess your own set of characteristics, many of which you may share in common with others born under your sign. This, of course, is true of your would-be spouse as well.

What we don’t often consider is that anything “born” on a given day — whether a pet, a business, a marriage, anything that has a definite beginning in time — also has its own characteristics. The astrological influences bestow a set of qualities or energies to any new arrival in the world, which, from then on, has a life of its own. So when you get married, you are not only having to adjust and accommodate to your spouse, but you both are having to make adjustments to the requirements or influences of the marriage itself — that third thing that binds you together and has its own life energy.

You can see how it becomes important to understand that the wedding — actually the phrase “I now pronounce you husband and wife”– marks the birth or the beginning of the marriage. From then on, it’s not just “he and I” or “she and I” but both of you together within a larger context that will either be supportive of you or a trial to live with.

We’ve all heard of a great couple who fell apart after they got married. Looking at the wedding time can often reveal how incompatible their marriage energy was with both their energies, even though the two of them together worked well astrologically before they got married.

What does this mean for June weddings, or for marriages begun in any month? Let’s start with June and go through the signs, exploring the energies and feelings of each one so that you might be able to identify what time period is more likely to give you the kind of marriage you dream about. (Oh, it would be good if you considered a date that your spouse-to-be also agrees with!)

Most of June falls into the sign of Gemini, which actually begins around the 21st of May and goes through the 21st of June. Dates that the signs change to the next sign are called “cusps” and can vary from the 20th to the 23rd of any given month. In general, these are not the best days to plan to have your wedding, as the energy is in transition from one sign to the next sign and therefore carries a certain amount of tension because of that changeover. I’d recommend that you not choose any dates from the 19th through the 24th, just to be safe.

As you read through the paragraphs about the nature of each sign, trust your feelings and how you are responding to the information rather than trying to do a mental analysis. The qualities you feel most comfortable with are the ones that will best suit you and your partner, and will make for a more harmonious marriage.

MAY 21 – JUNE 21. GEMINI, the Twins. The challenge of Gemini is for two to become one, for the polarities or dualities of life to reconcile and find unity, at least on a mental level. In and of itself, this task aptly describes the path of marriage and, for this reason, is a fitting sign under which to exchange vows, even though it is not an emotionally rich sign. On the down side, that reconciling of opposites often ends up in partners feeling more like brother and sister. This kind of compatibility may be welcome in later life, but not so much early on in the union. The resiliency which Gemini is known for, however, may help a couple remain successfully married as long as the channels of communication are kept open, which this Mercury-ruled sign requires.

JUNE 21 – JULY 23. CANCER, the Crab. Now we enter the archetypal “home and family” sign. Cancer makes up in emotion for what Gemini lacks. A marriage under this sign will bind family members together on a deep, subconscious level. Sometimes this could extend to possessive attachment, to the exclusion of non-family individuals and non-family values/religion/politics — not the most tolerant sign when it comes to differences. A good sign for those whose ancestry and tradition are the most important things in life. Ruled by the moody Moon, the mother is often the dominant or central figure in the family unit, along with ancestral heritage.

JULY 23 – AUGUST 23. LEO, the Lion. In Leo the spotlight shifts to the children, the pride and joy of the family. Along with the creation of children comes the idea of creation on other levels — from games and play to creative self-expression in art, writing, dance, music, all outpourings of the self. Where Cancer may be introverted by nature, Leo can be extroverted. Entertaining may be a strong aspect of Leo marriages, as may the need for romance. This high-maintenance aspect of Leo is not tolerant of the taking-each-other-for-granted that spouses often fall into. When operating on its high side, Leo is generous and open-hearted, playful and sunny, like the Sun which rules it. The father in Leo marriages takes center stage.

AUGUST 23 – SEPTEMBER 23. VIRGO, the Virgin. The complexities of Virgo may not be the easiest energy to live with, as marriage under this sign requires partners to live to high standards with little reward except that things are “done right.” Under Virgo’s rulership we find health, service, obedience and cooperation, along with precision and attention to detail. Surely a marriage doesn’t get far without cooperation, but few couples may feel called to devote themselves and their marriage to service – whether to the community, country, religion or a cause. Teacher couples may do well here, as may health care professionals, engineers and clergy. But the critical-eyed aspect of Mercury through this sign might leave less selfless individuals feeling overly pressured, perhaps frustrated by this task-master energy.

SEPTEMBER 23 – OCTOBER 23. LIBRA, the Scales. Ah, Libra, the archetypal marriage sign. “We” not “I” is how this energy operates, and relationship evolves to an art form. This is not the sign for strong-willed or self-centered individuals, as Libra seeks tranquillity, harmony and peace. The smoothly flowing back-and-forth exchange of thoughts, feelings and ideas keep the Libra marriage coals stoked. When bumps in the road come up, Libra is forgiving – but only up to a point. Too many transgressions and the gloves come off. Appreciation of art and beauty through its Venus rulership — beauty both in nature and man-made — make this an excellent marriage sign for those for whom “the other” is of primary importance and relationship in and of itself is vital for life. Seeing and bringing out the best in each other is part of the mutual appreciation that makes Libra unions last.

OCTOBER 23 – NOVEMBER 22. SCORPIO, the Scorpion, the Eagle and the Phoenix. As private as Cancer may be, the energy of Scorpio can take introversion to an extreme. While this may not be a good sign for social and outgoing people to marry under, the emphasis on a strong sex life and money may be appealing to some. Nor is Scorpio for the faint-hearted, as all issues and qualities come under intense scrutiny to rival Virgo. When operating positively, marriage under this sign makes the partners feel exalted; when negative, it feels like the end of the world. The triple rulership describes the spectrum of Scorpio energy — from scorpions who will sting themselves to death if no one else is around to inflict their venom on, to the eagle who can fly high and surmount earthly concerns, to the phoenix who rises from the ashes of its own death to soar to the sun. Tremendous power for transformation is potential in this sign, yet few outlets exist for releasing the pressures of life under this Mars-Pluto rulership. Intense individuals may be the only ones who can withstand this energy.

NOVEMBER 22 – DECEMBER 22. SAGITTARIUS, the Archer. Pack your bags, because if you marry under Sagittarius, the wanderer, you may find yourself changing addresses or taking trips more than the average. If not traveling externally, the expansive influence of Jupiter-ruled Sagittarius will invite partners to broaden their mental and spiritual horizons with explorations into the new, the distant, and the mystical. Very outgoing and social, this sign feels like the opposite of Scorpio and enjoys nature, perhaps even sports, and values higher education and learning. An idealistic energy, Sagittarius, like Gemini, can bounce back quickly from troubles — that is, if it hasn’t taken off to some distant place already. This is a great energy for couples who want to live free before taking on the responsibilities of family, or for marriages of independent, outgoing couples, perhaps later in life who want to stretch their wings.

DECEMBER 22 – JANUARY 20. CAPRICORN, the Goat. This serious, Saturn-ruled energy is all about ambition, recognition, climbing the ladder of success, and pinnacles of accomplishment. Energetic workaholics do well under this approval-seeking influence. Saturn also rules “time,” so couples marrying under this sign may be in for the long haul, despite the personal hardships such an energy exacts. While most marriage vows do promise lifelong commitment, these days that’s not often the case. In the words of a friend, it’s “for better or for worse, but not for long.” Perhaps marriages under Capricorn fare better than the statistics, I don’t know. Often overlooked qualities which Saturn rules may help with stabilizing a marriage, and they are humor and the wisdom that comes with experience. This is a good sign for couples with worldly ambitions, whether they are just starting out or are second marriages with strong status values.

JANUARY 20 – FEBRUARY 18. AQUARIUS, the Water-Bearer. Under this sign of friendship and long-term goals, partners with a compatible vision for life may find support for joint ventures and feeling as though they’d married their “best friend.” Opposite to the personal expression of will in creative Leo, Aquarian marriages may be called to a higher purpose under God’s will in selecting which goals they will work toward. Not emotionally rich like Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces, the temperature under Aquarius can be on the cool side, more like the mental Gemini and Libra. To others, Aquarian couples may appear aloof — that is, until you get to know them and appreciate their dedication and drive. Couples with strong social, environmental, or other causes are well supported by this sign, as are those who are truly the best of friends.

FEBRUARY 18 – MARCH 20. PISCES, the Fish. Dreamy Pisces is as idealistic as Sagittarius, but in an even more mystical sense; as romantic as Libra, but in a more spiritual sense; and as service-oriented as Virgo, but in almost a religious, rather than duty-oriented sense. Pisces marriages find harmony being close to water or in the feeling of the partners flowing into and out of each other. Boundaries are nebulous here and individuality runs a far second to at-one-ment with the cosmos. If this all sounds like too far a reach for most humans, consider the down-side of this energy — confusion, denial, deception and addiction. While successful Pisces unions require a clear commitment to the highest ideals (which marriage is designed to elicit from us anyway), daily renewal of these visions — whether through prayer, meditation, uplifting reading or music — are necessary to keep this gentle and loving energy operating on its high side.

MARCH 20 – APRIL 20. ARIES, the Ram. Sign of spring and renewal, Aries can be a wonderful marriage sign, where it finds an influence of daily newness and highly charged, Mars-ruled, pure life energy, as physical as it gets. Being born and daily re-born closely describes the feelings of “honeymooning,” when each sees the other freshly and sex is enthusiastic. For couples with high sexual needs without the intensity of Scorpio, it is a good sign. For those more moderate in need for physical expression, it may become a burden which can rapidly turn to frustration and anger when not permitted the outlet. A master of new beginnings, one of Aries’ challenges is seeing things through to the end. This works well for busy couples with few domestic and family goals, but is difficult when partially mowed lawns or incomplete projects littering the household get in the way of daily living.

APRIL 20 – MAY 21. TAURUS, the Bull. Our circle around the zodiac is completed in Taurus, an earthy and materialistic energy ruled by Venus in her more physical expressions. Like Aries, Taurus enjoys physical intimacy but is more suited to couples staying together for the long haul than Aries, as Taurus is a fixed and possessive sign. It has the kind of energy that, even if a marriage doesn’t last on paper, it will be held onto in the heart (which sometimes isn’t welcome in a new post-divorce relationship!). Taurus enjoys material comforts and thrives when partners express appreciation for each other with frequent complements and displays of affection. Sometimes high-maintenance financially, this sign is always high maintenance emotionally, for its need for continual affection and approval.

How to Use This Information

In choosing a perfect wedding date for both of you, you want to step back and view the big picture of your lives together. Project yourself through all the stages of life and what the future may have in store for you — from the honeymoon through working at jobs or finishing school, to build a certain level of security and success, raising a family (if this is part of your agreement) and seeing them grow and move on, to retiring together when it’s just the two of you again.

Finding one sign that supports or reflects all of life’s stages seems improbable. But being realistic about yourself and your partner’s qualities and values will help guide you to select the most appropriate marriage energy to start with.

There’s another option, however, one which is increasing in popularity and for good reason… the renewal of marriage vows. Mostly we hear of couples re-vowing out of love or because of a recent reconciliation after a time of trial. But you might think of renewing your vows as a way to ‘adjust’ your marriage energy to better match the changes that you both are moving through in various life stages.

Consider this: Renewal of vows essentially “re-starts” the marriage. Given what you have read about the influence of various signs, you can see how valuable this re-starting could prove to be.

For example, say you choose Capricorn as your wedding sign. You are both up-and-coming professionals who want to dedicate yourselves to building position and security for some years. Once you are ready to have children, you can renew your vows under Cancer or Leo. When the children are grown, a Gemini or Aquarian, Libran or Sagittarian renewal may then better suit your lifestyle.

The option to renew vows frees you from feeling locked in to just one marriage energy to live with and work with for a lifetime. It also feels like it better suits our changing lifestyles and the pace of living in today’s world.

So, how does a couple renew vows? This can be as formal as asking your clergy-person to preside over a ceremony in your house of worship with invited family and guests, or as personal and informal as the two of you on a beach or in a park with some special person as a witness. The pivotal aspect of vow renewal is your mutual intention. Ideally, you will each write your vows from your hearts and exchange them openly, whole-heartedly, and with as much intention as your original wedding vows.

Harnessing the universal energies for your marriage, and later for a renewal of your vows, aligns you with the cycles of life and brings you into harmony with the cosmic whole, so that Life itself might support you in having the kind of marriage you’ve always dreamed of. I hope this information helps all your marriage dreams come true.

How to Make a Wedding Affordable

I was looking over some information about articles I’ve submitted and noticed that one of the phrases searched that brought up some of them was, “marriage ceremony when you can’t get married because of finances.” We also have some new friends who are talking about how they can’t get married right now because they can’t afford a wedding. It made me think that sometimes young couples don’t really understand the difference between the wedding and the marriage so I decided to throw out my two cents on the subject.

First things first, a wedding is the ceremony. It’s the vows you take BEFORE the marriage starts. Marriage is the ever after, the part that is most important. It’s the rest of your lives together going through the sickness and health, the ups and downs, the good and bad and everything in between. How you’re going to handle all of that together is more important than the wedding itself but I’m always amazed at how many couples spend months or years to plan the wedding but end up divorced in two years because they never discussed the MARRIAGE! They’ve had their $25,000 dream wedding, still owe on it and are seeking out a divorce lawyer!

That said if you truly love one another and are prepared for marriage then truly you should get married. You shouldn’t put off the marriage because you can’t afford the wedding. I know it’s hard to wrap your head around this but the big spectacular wedding isn’t something you MUST have. It’s a desire, a want, not a NEED. Living together for five years because you can’t afford the wedding isn’t a mature attitude. If you really wanted to be married, you’d realize the difference between the marriage and the wedding. I know this sounds harsh. Don’t shoot me yet. I’m not saying you have to give up all of your wedding dreams. I’m just saying to be a realist about them.

Something that irks me to no end is the statement made by some that, “courtesy dictates” or “custom dictates”. Okay, nothing gets me riled up more than the word, “dictate”. Does that mean you HAVE to do something? You’re being forced against your will to do something? If “dictate” is paying the tab on the pricey affair, then so be it, but if YOU are paying the tab and you don’t want to start out your marriage in debt because of your wedding, then by all means, kick “dictate” out of the picture and do what you can afford!

First, discuss what’s important to both of you for the wedding. Is it a church ceremony? Is it the long cathedral length gown? Is it getting all of your friends and relations together for the event? Make a list of the “must haves” and the “can do without” items. Once you have that, it’s easier to find ways to accomplish your desires AND do it inexpensively.

Wedding gown-Truthfully, the gown was one of MY most important things. I imagined myself in the cathedral length gown. I seriously shopped! I quickly found out that I didn’t look any better in the $3,000 raw silk gown versus the $650 gown! Shocking, huh? Now, even $650 is a lot. I was recently shopping in a thrift store and found a BRAND NEW, raw silk, cathedral length wedding gown with labels STILL ON for $50!!!! I’m still kicking myself for not buying the dress just for the fabric (I’m a quilter). Sometimes I kick myself for not shopping for my wedding gown at thrift stores. I always figured them for out of date styles but that’s far from true. In addition, the long trains are great for showy weddings and for when the expensive pictures are taken but if you’re trimming expenses than think more on a shorter style or floor length which are generally much less. Remember that NO ONE has to know that your dress was a thrift store find or off the floor sale dress or borrowed from a friend! All they’ll know if that you look beautiful, radiant and happy in it!

Church Wedding-Generally it’s not the church that is the biggest expense especially if you’re a member of that church. What IS expensive about the church weddings are the flowers, the pew decorations, the cathedral length gown and all of that stuff. Being married in our church with a Mass was very important to us. Being married in the presence of our friends and family was important to us. Spending thousands just to decorate what was already a beautiful place of worship was NOT important to us! The total cost of the church and small donation was $175. I made simple pew bows for about $100. The church was already decorated for the fall season and we chose not to add any more flowers. We could have paid the church organist about another $100 to play the music but I had opted for a string quartet of our choosing which cost us $500 (having a friend handle recorded music would have cost us nothing). We could have had the entire church wedding for $175 if we had chosen, though. Remember, God will be present with you as you join in holy matrimony no matter where you choose to exchange your vows and no matter how you choose to decorate (or not decorate).

The photographs-Yep, BIG, BIG EXPENSE! I’ve seen wedding packages run into the thousands and thousands. I had friends who wanted to be married and were willing to do whatever was needed to have a wedding but keep the cost to the absolute minimum. They decided to forego a formal wedding photographer and asked that friends take pictures to share with them. As their wedding gift to them, I offered to take more formal pictures for them.

I took the time to help them set up shots after the ceremony and they made sure to have pictures with anyone they wanted and have any poise they wanted. I developed the initial pictures as my gift and gave them everything in archival albums (negatives included which in general, professional photographers won’t give you). They were THRILLED! So, as you see, if you have a friend who is respectable with a good camera, you might ask them to photograph for you as a wedding gift. I definitely agree that capturing the moment is important but capturing for free or nearly free is MUCH better than capturing for thousands.

Reception-Okay, this is one of biggest expenses by far. If you can have your church wedding and then after the ceremony use the church banquet hall for a buffet of sandwiches, salads, cake and punch and THAT is what you can afford, then so be it! Some will tell you that you have to have a sit down meal. Go back to what I think about “dictate”.

The bottom line is that having the dream start to your marriage surrounded by friends and family doesn’t have to expensive affair. A stylish, tasteful and beautiful wedding can be created from almost any budget. It does require a bit more effort and time on your part but it also means really discussing what is most important to both of you and setting priorities which honestly, is a great way to start a lifetime together.

Marriage and Its Importance in Various Countries

Marriage is the wonderful occasion and feeling for both bride and groom. Definition of marriage differs along with the thoughts of people and culture of different places. But most of people agree that it is nothing but the lifetime commitment. Marriage is the base that keeps two person bound with other for their lifetime. However, bound period may be different in different countries. In western countries marriages end after 10 years while in the countries like India it runs for lifetime.

Mostly the marriage means that it is nothing but the formal conformation of relationship. Marriages and ceremonies are depending on the various culture and customs of that specific country. Marriage makes ones love life into a promising one. This is the occasion that brings two persons together for the rest of their life by joining their hearts. Wedding is just not means for to join two souls together but gives a proper and definite shape to their life.

However the importance of wedding differs due to different countries and it can not be judged only on the basis of the looks of society. In western as well as eastern countries there are different customs and principles that people use in their wedding ceremonies. The use of these customs and principles helps to keep it forever as the culture. As we know people are forgetting about their culture and customs but the cultural events and marriages are the best source to keep the culture alive.

The factors such as bridal shoes, bridal gifts, wedding invitation and wedding accessories are the most essentials things and in some countries is part of the culture. In Hinduism, marriage is the source that helps to meet both social and religious obligations. Other religions have their own ways to describe the importance of marriage ceremony.

According to some people marriage is the only path that they are following individually. Life is a long journey and everyone needs a perfect path to discover the distance. However, if we get traveling mate with us then the journey becomes too easy and happy. Here our life partners it self is a traveling mate for us who helps to make the journey joyful and happy.